Save the Date: new, fresh ideas to announce your wedding plans!

It‘s very important to send the basic details of your wedding to your guests as soon as possible, before sending your formal invitation. It’s a kind and thoughtful way to help your chosen wedding guests ensure they reserve the date for you and not miss out on your special day. If some guests are from out of town, they will have time to book their travel itineraries and possibly their time away from work. As everyone is so busy these days, your guests will be delighted to receive a timely, fun and personalized notice from you, ahead of the arrival of your more formal, information filled wedding invitation. For those guests who are not in the internet generation, a short handwritten note with ‘Save The Date’ on it can be sent via the underused but reliable mail service!

These examples show some extremely creative ways to create a Save the Date wedding notice. While these particular examples can take time to create, there are many ways to use these ideas and recreate them in a simpler but individualized fashion.

When creating your Save the Date notice, be sure to use elements of your own style as a couple. Do you cook together, go running together, walk the dog, or ski together?  Perhaps you could cut and paste some fun vacation photos or family photos in a collage format? Or maybe you know someone in the wedding circle who has the skills to put something like this together? That could be a great meaningful wedding present to you both! Do you have a niece or nephew who could draw a colourful childlike picture of the two of you getting married? That could be a charming and unique way of announcing your plans.

Here are some more examples of very diverse but achievable ways to have fun sending out your Save the Date news.

Ambrosia photography-stop-motion Wedding Invitation 

Ellen and Tim save the date video

Save the date:: Zach& Chelsea

 

Landon & Kristen; save the date! 

Annie and Declan's Save the Date

 

Evite is a simple yet fun way to announce your Save the Date through email. You can create a personalized announcement with a Save the Date theme or with your own pictures and themes. As a host of the site you can ask invitees to send funny stories and/or memories of you both.

Creating this notice can really add to the fun and the excitement of your upcoming wedding celebration. Together, create something memorable out of the many possibilities available to you. Enjoy!

I promise to maintain my sense of humour



Morgan and Evan under the chuppah at the Fermenting Cellar. Photography by Catherine Farquharson



So many urban Toronto love stories transform years later into joyous wedding celebrations. Some have an element of humour mixed into the vows in the wedding service.

The wedding ceremony for Evan and Morgan was a creative, sensitive blend of their roots.  But the heart of the service itself still was their love and their delightful shared sense of humour. Yes, Morgan certainly knew what to expect in Evan’s surprise wedding vow to her. Evan definitely has a quirky, dry sense of humour:

“Morgan, you are my love, my best friend, and my partner in life.

I promise to never take you for granted, to encourage you, and to love you for all the days of my life.

In particular, I promise to:

Help clean the house even if it is clearly not dirty,

Pretend that this is the last time we will let Walter sleep on the bed,

Scratch your back whenever it’s itchy,

Stay on my allocated 50% of the bed,

Drive you to work in the mornings when you really need it,

No longer drive like a mad man.

I love you and can’t wait to spend the rest of my life with you.”

Morgan knew to expect a suprise from Evan in his vows.

The Fermenting Cellar in the Distillery District was an inspiring blank canvas with which they created an exceptionally beautiful wedding day. The dramatic lighting, beautiful colour scheme, stunning ambiance, and the beauty of Morgan in her chic gown, all created a lasting impression. The sophisticated photography of Catherine Farquharson and a carefully created and very personal wedding service was performed by me. These were some of the many distinct elements that blended artistically into Morgan and Evan’s memorable wedding day experience.

Machel Reeves was their talented wedding coordinator who, once again, performed her signature magic. In Toronto, her “Machel” trademark weddings have always been trendsetting, elegant, and innovative. They are copied by many. 

Evan and Morgan’s wedding is still being talked about. Their guests were chuckling as Evan spoke his humorous vows. The photographs say it clearly: it was a visually stunning and extraordinary event!

I do wed you, with my own vow

Valuable Wedding Vow Wisdom (some TIPS)

Nicole and Adam had spent careful time planning exactly the right wedding vows to suit their personalities. Stunning Graydon Hall Manor was the location for this trend-setting. Picture by Ikonica.

1. First, ask your Wedding Officiant
To avoid disappointment, start by asking your Wedding Officiant, Rabbi, Imam, Priest, or Minister: "Is it okay if you write your own vows?"   

2. Short is good! 
The length of your vows does matter. Do try to think about what the most important topics are for. This is a “highlight”, a heartfelt moment of the service. But it can also be a very stressful experience for you as a wedding couple. It is natural that you are both going to be emotional during this very public commitment of your Love. Because you love each other, there is no need to attempt to prove it by overwriting your vows. A short sincere and heartfelt vow can convey your love clearly.  

3. A bit of humour? 
Many of my modern couples are adding the addition of something in the vows that is honest and funny for them both. Yes, this can give you both a little tasteful and joyous break from the seriousness of getting married in your own charming and sincere way. For example, a sentence about reminding each other, of whose turn it is to complete a dreaded home chore, has brought a tender humanness and even a small sweet laugh to a couple. Then, you can continue on to the more serious parts of your vows together. These days, a light and funny sentenceis a great addition to a beautiful and meaningful wedding vow!
 
4. Be careful of wedding vows written on the internet
If you are taking ideas off the Internet, ask yourself: Who were these vows meant for? Are these just too perfect, too lofty, and too overly dramatic? You both will be so much more engaged in vows that are ‘realer‘, and more authentic, closer to who you both really are. The sincerity of your caring and devotion will come shinning through. I believe it is always better when the final vows are more human, more honest, and less perfect, less contrived. After all, true love is two imperfect people seeing the perfection in each other. Your very unique love and intimate thoughts are what you really dowant to share with those you love and have invited to be part of your wedding day.

Ron and Lena saying their personal wedding vows outside, at the beautiful McLean House Garden at Sunnybrook Estates (yes, they did practice their vows ahead, before the wedding service). Photo by Heartline Pictures. 

5. Practise!A few days ahead of the ceremony, take some time to practice out loud your vows together. You are not expected to memorize these powerful sentences. However, the familiarity you will gain will be a great support to you both in a few days! You will be so glad you have created this level of comfort going into your service. This will not lessen the emotional experience of saying these words only on the day itself. On the contrary, this practice will enhance an already meaningful experience. You will definitely be less stressed and much more confident and comfortable delivering your vows.

Children in your wedding party?

Children and  dogs are unpredictable. If you are thinking of having young children in your wedding party, here are some things to think about, and plan ahead for:

What is the personality of your little niece? Do you really know her? Is she so shy she may not even make it down the aisle? So many little children have found all those ‘tall grown ups’ on both sides of the aisle very intimidating on the wedding day itself.  You need to plan for the personalities of each child involved. Have they ever been in a wedding party before - or even been to a wedding?  Do they really understand what is expected of them on the day? Do they know how to behave? Are they’ hams ‘, or shy natured?  You might consider having two or three young children walk down the aisle together in a cluster - like the Royals do. The children will be much more relaxed and happier about this less formal arrangement.   No bride will truly ever have complete control over what may (or may not) happen as they come down the aisle. My advice? - Plan for success and wisely, expect the unexpected.

How can this be more fun for each child? What if you gave each child not a flower basket, but a stuffed animal or doll they will keep after the service? The cost is surely the same as a basket and fresh flowers and they may delight in this thoughtful surprise. Some teddy bears can even be dressed’ ‘bridal ‘. They will forever have a fun remembrance of their starring role in your wedding party.   Your niece is angelic.  How about a set of fairy wings? She’ll have lots of fun wearing them for the whole day. Or is your nephew a macho man? A truck or transformer presented to him that has the wedding rings carefully tied on a satin ribbon to his new truck?  You’re guaranteed great pictures of a smiling happy boy at your wedding!

And after the service, their job is done, so now what?  Some parents really do want an adult evening away from children. Are the few children present going to be bored? Is there anyone else around to play with? In my experience the answers to these questions are yes and no – in that order, so may I suggest you discuss these issues with the parents ahead of time. Perhaps make arrangements for someone to come to your wedding location and take them home? Now it has just become a delightful parent’s night out; the kids are going home happy to sleep. Or have plans been made with your caterer for simple child friendly foods?   Can they be served a wee bit earlier than the main meal? Or are there enough children that you will hire someone fun to organize and set up a few children’s activities that are quiet and age suitable. Bring a portable DVD player with a few, sure fire kid hits. Or plan a fast trip to the dollar store to buy fun arts and crafts activities; glue and stickers.

If you can, it would be great to have a quieter area at your venue set aside. Just a little bit of planning ahead can reap great rewards in creating a wedding experience that is sweetly memorable for you as the couple and the special children in your life that you both love. Something else to consider: a wedding pyjama party! Yeah! With sleeping bags, cousins, and staying up late as the big treat. The parents will be carrying home sleepy, happy children.

The dog steals the spotlight from the beautiful bride

Hard to believe, that a beautiful bride would want to share the wedding day spotlight with a huge St.  Bernard. - But it has happened!

Were the guests talking about her stunning dress, how beautiful she looked? Absolutely not! Everyone was talking about the same thing---the big St. Bernard, Sam. Throughout the service, the dog stood beside the couple - almost as if a dog whisperer / wrangler/ was standing nearby. Sam was cute, adorable, and comedic, all at the right moments. He certainly hammed it up in the direction of the guests.

During the ceremony, the plan was, I would ‘ask Sam’ for the rings from around his furry neck. He was the ring bearer after all.  All went perfectly and since I had been tipped off ahead of time, I cleverly had a few juicy liver treats tucked discreetly inside my service text book. That was a first! 

Sam really did steal the show. – What was it that W.C. Fields said? - Never share the stage with a dog or a child? He really knew what he was talking about! – But the wedding couple truly did not mind as they had a deep common love of dogs. They both have had a few St Bernard’s in their lives, collectively. Sam, in their view, was an important member of their closest family circle and needed to be close at hand during their warm and truly distinct wedding service. Later, there were lots of chuckles about Sam.  You guessed it .There were a flurry of funny jokes during the toasts that all ended with many doggie ‘punch lines’. - Nevertheless, a great time was had by all, at this delightful and unique wedding that went intentionally, ‘to the dogs'.

Rituals in Multicultural Weddings

The trend in the last few years in GTA weddings is to artistically blend and feature elements of each distinct culture or religion of the bridal couple’s family circles. This creates the opportunity for many visually interesting and meaningful rituals to be sourced from the diversity of all the cultures and faiths blended in the GTA. Recently, I officiated at a Persian/Hindu wedding. One of the Persian rituals has the bridal couple sitting on the “bench”. This bench is a very important element of any traditional Persian wedding day ceremony. Also, the same couple decided not to do another ritual - the “Sofreh-ye-Aghd”. There is tremendous history and heritage behind all rituals within a culture, but to fully honour each one would have taken a very long time. The couple decided to only focus on the “bench” ritual honouring her Persian family, and on one ritual from the groom’s Hindu background. In a very contemporary and innovative fashion they uniquely combined the exchange of rings and the exchange of flower wreaths at that same point in their modern and blended cultural wedding service. Yes, both family circles were very pleased to be honoured and represented!

Microphones and Ceremonies: What to Do

So many couples say they do not want microphones in their outside wedding services. But, from my experience, microphones are wonderful! You have spent so much time planning a beautiful and meaningful service, and it is important that everyone hears your vows, besides the family members in the first few front rows. I have even had experiences where microphones saved the day. I recently Officiated at a country outdoor wedding. During the service, a “neighbour” in a field next door practiced playing his bagpipe. In our opinion, he had a lot of practicing to do before he would be playing at anyone’s wedding! Luckily, we had a microphone and we were fine. (Yes, there was a lot of giggling and chuckling going on because he continued to practice throughout the whole service.) Without a microphone, his practice would have turned the ceremony into a comedy skit at the expense of the couple. Everyone was able to hear clearly the bridal couple’s moving and tender vows. Every outdoor venue has its own needs. For example, in a huge and beautiful expansive place like Graydon Hall Manor you must really have a microphone for outside ceremonies. A windy day with no microphone is very frustrating for your family and friends. As you can see, microphones are a great help! They are a wonderful invention and make a stunning outside wedding location very personable, and totally assist in engaging your guests in your love story. This photo is from Nicole & Adam’s elegant Graydon Hall wedding.

The Beauty of a Boat Wedding

What could be more romantic than a couple, very in love, floating around on a four masted schooner on a beautiful summer evening? Even better is to have along the very closest and dearest people in your life, for an intimate summer eve's boat wedding. The experience will last a lifetime. I officiated at such a wedding. The evening was great: the weather was good! The children adored the adventure of running around the historic schooner, Kajama, which was very comfortable, elegant and huge! What a treat! The romantic service was held at the bow of the boat. An intimate dinner was served downstairs, and afterwards, desserts were served upstairs on the deck under the stars. Dancing followed on deck with a great deejay playing just the right tunes to create a memorable evening for all. Going past the Toronto skyline with all its beauty of the dramatic lights was also a treat. Everyone present had an amazing wedding experience! I loved being the “floating” Officiant for this family focused, wedding adventure.

Wedding on the Kajama, photo - Ron Wood, Heartline Pictures

Wedding on the Kajama, photo - Ron Wood, Heartline Pictures

 


Unity Candles

This ritual is originally from the traditional Catholic wedding services, but has quickly become modern and very popular with the blends of multicultural elements and different religions. Lighting candles is a beautiful ritual and can be very adaptable for almost any wedding situation. The passage read by the Officiant can be from religious vocabulary or more non-denominational in tone. Even better is to write something that beautifully expresses the uniqueness of the couple’s blend of cultures or diversity. The passage can be written to feature two Mothers, or even Grandparents that are there and can be part of the wedding day’s happiness. Another possibility is to choose other family members coming forward to symbolically demonstrate their support of these two very diverse religions or cultures coming together. If there is a child in the immediate family circle of bride and groom, that child can have a personal moment as they are asked to come forward to light their “special” candle beside the groom’s and bride’s. Yes, children have always loved the magic of lighting a candle. Be sure to tell your photographer that you would love photos of each family member involved in the unity candle ritual. These are important memories in the years to come.